I've never been the greatest at making new friends, aside from being drunk in the ladies loo's ofcourse. I'm awkward and I'm just a bit antisocial. I enjoy leaving the house but I also enjoy lying in bed doing absolutely sod all. It's no surprise to me when I attend baby groups that although I natter along with various different Mums from all walks of life I don't come away with any ever lasting friendships. And that's part of the problem I think - I'm looking for commitment.
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy the casual exchanges with Mums on the bus or at baby massage but I'm looking for more than that. I'm looking for Costa dates to bitch about the other half and your in laws. I'm looking for Whatsapp messages about how much of a dick our babies have been that day. Maybe even a baby free night involving wine now and again. I'm basically looking for "the one". I even signed up to Mush - the Mummy dating app - but it's so difficult to know what to say. Should I tone up the positivity or tone down the sarcasm. That's right, I'm scared of rejection from MUMS.
As friendly as I am, some Mums you just don't have anything in common with and I think Mum friends should be there for sanity not just a plus one to soft play. Maybe we're all in the same boat and maybe I should just approach someone and be like "hey, how YOU doing?" - because if they don't understand the Friends reference then you definitely don't need them in your life!
Part of the problem is also the fact that there doesn't seem to be many people my age who NEED baby buddies. They all have besties that have popped out some sprogs so they go to things together and have no interest in adding a third wheel to the equation.
The other part is that I'm just really comfy being by myself. I love spending time with Theo when he's not screaming or poo'ing. When we are playing I just zone out into a little bubble with that gorgeous baby smile and want concentrate all my efforts on making the most of our time together.
Plus, what is the etiquette for this type of situation. How many times do you have to meet people before you "make your move". Do you ask them out for coffee? Do you ask for their number to arrange a play date? Seriously, why is this shit so complex! And I thought hooking up with men was difficult!
Does it get better as they get older? Or will I forever be an awkward loner Mum?
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